New Year is out, Valentine’s Day is around the corner

Still believing that exclusivity is necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships? The modern divorce rate of 50% says otherwise.

As traditional Valentine’s Day themed pink and red greeting cards are replacing the tired Christmas & New Year colours on the stands of our stores, most of us are anticipating (or not) the invasion of our social networks and television by the typical romantic scenarios of exchanging gifts, kisses and love messages between the two lovers of opposite or the same sex. Very few of us ever imagine the holiday routine in relationships where there are more than two lovers involved.

The images of cheating two-timers running between the deceived spouse and the scheming mistress aside, we are hardly bombarded nowadays by pictures of non-traditional family unions such as polyamorous families where the conventional Valentine’s day gift exchange is a little bit more complicated because of the larger number of givers and recipients involved. Polyamorous unions where ethical, and responsible non-monogamy is practiced with knowledge and consent of everyone involved are estimated to have around 1.2 to 2.4 million followers just in the United States alone according to latest research.

As the author of the autobiographical memoir, And Then There Were Three: Sixty Seven Letters to Sasha, I have an intimate understanding of the workings of a polyamorous relationship. Great Valentine’s Day read! Enjoy!

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‘And Then There Were Three: Sixty Seven Letters to Sasha’ just received a star rating making it #IndieReaderApproved. Indie Reader calls it “A personal, immersive epistolary record of the author’s unconventional relationship”.

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Author Biography

And Then There Were Three: Sixty-Seven Letters to Sasha by Julia G. Fox

Author Biography:

Having immigrated from Russia in my late teens, I settled in the United States in the early ’90s and graduated with master’s degree in psychology from a university in California. I published two books of poetry before leaving my home country, both in the Russian language. I self-published a book of poetry in English a few years ago. You can view it here

Summary of the Book

And Then There Were Three: Sixty-Seven Letters to Sasha by Julia G. Fox

Summary of the Book:

In this poignant and poetic memoir, author Julie G. Fox chronicles the reunion of her husband, George, with his former lover from college, Sasha—a man living a double life in a culture where his homosexuality could result in imprisonment or worse. As Sasha enters their life, both husband and wife must learn to navigate and explore the challenges and complexities of a polyamorous reality together against a backdrop of cultural and societal expectations and judgments.

Presented as a collection of letters, And Then There Were Three: Sixty-Seven Letters to Sasha is an intensely personal reflection that examines and questions the dynamic and often challenging elements of marriage, relationships, and acceptance, as well as the nature of love itself.

Excerpt from the Book – #9

And Then There Were Three: Sixty-Seven Letters to Sasha by Julia G. Fox

Excerpt from the Book – #9:

“You said that Westerners had not perfected a simple skill that was indispensable in the East—eating a ripe tomato. You said that our tomatoes were firm and meaty and had no juice in them, and eating them was an easy game. But try eating a ripe tomato, you said, with the juice bursting out the moment you touched the red flesh with your lips, hours after these fruits were picked by farmers from their tiny gardens and sold from aluminum bowls alongside the motorway stretching between Gogol to Kiev. You said you had to approach such a tomato with the tenderness and cautiousness with which you would approach your first kiss. You said you had to hold the tomato just above and over your mouth, your head tilted back before your first bite, and when you carefully placed your teeth on the fruit, you had to bite in slowly, letting the juice drip into your mouth, sucking it in and then biting deeper. You said you had to proceed by slightly tilting the tomato left and right and biting small bits and drinking whatever juice was coming out until you were left with nothing but the mushy flesh and some skin. You said that the experts (and you were one of them!) do stop now and then and managed even to sprinkle some salt before taking the next bite without splashing any juice on their light-colored shirts. The experts even manage to have a bite of a toast, which usually patiently sits on the plate next to a shot of vodka. You said these ripe tomatoes made vodka taste better. I said that nothing makes vodka taste better than kissing you right after taking a shot”.

Excerpt from the Book – #8

And Then There Were Three: Sixty-Seven Letters to Sasha by Julia G. Fox

Excerpt from the Book – #8:

“The time machine that is initiated inside your brain is magical and real at the same time. The sensations are euphoric. The most unpleasant or mundane smells like old lorries’ exhausts, the nausea-provoking stench from a urine-soaked rug used as a toilet by generations of felines in cheap housing estates on the city edge, the faint, rusty scent and rhythmical sounds of train tracks, the various odors of underground stations with their twists and turns and tunnels squeezing the crowds through, with its narrowness and overflowing rubbish containers, the burning curious looks of stray cats jumping from under the car tires, various aromas that hit you on entering shops, surrounding you, messing with your brain and not letting you go till you surrender yourself to this time machine feeling the sense of dread when the scent and the memory it brought with you is gone, leaving you with the nauseous feeling of the doom the reality is”.